Purpose

So I went to this forum yesterday in commemoration of International Women's Day. While I wouldn't call straight up myself a feminist, I agreed with some things the speakers mentioned. What really caught me about the forum was this one thing one of the speakers, Ameera Natasha Moore, stated about marriage. "Marriage is not my main objective in life. I want it to be like I just happen to find someone whom I can fit into my life plans, dreams and such."

Not too long ago, I told my mum I don't want to get married. I said it in a half-joking manner. The truth is that I'm scared of making a life long commitment. I can't even decide what's my favourite colour because my preferences keep changing.

Anyway, my point here is that I told my mum that several times already that my mum has started to get worried of me. There's no way that I'm going to be obsessed with my career in the future, by the way, but I have so many goals in life that don't include getting married. I don't even imagine myself reaching those goals with someone next to me.

When Ameera said that, I was reminded of this movie I watched years back. It's actually a very short scene but it still resounds in my mind even now. The girl gets to know this guy (not the leading man) who recently divorced his wife. He said he's still very much in love with his ex-wife, and the ex-wife is still very much in love with him. So why get divorced? the girl asked. To her (and my) surprise, the reason was quite simple but very sad. One day they sat down together and the guy asked his (then) wife about her future plans and goals. They are wonderful, until he realized one thing. "I'm not there," he told the girl.

Um, again I'm losing my actual purpose of writing a post.

What I'm trying to say is, I don't think marriage is a goal, nor should it be a goal in life. I mean, really, imagine if that's your main objective in life - what happens once you get married? What happens after that? Wouldn't you be at loss?

I'm still pissed off at Jane Eyre's ending. (I never finished the book though but I don't think I will)